Alone we can do so little; together we can do so much.” Helen Keller
Have you experienced a death, divorce, health crisis, job loss, or other loss? Does this loss have you feeling as though you are spinning out of control? Do you feel stuck in the pain and sorrow? Are you looking for a solution which would allow you to move forward from the loss? If so, then you have come to the right place! Grieving people are not broken; therefore, they do not need to be fixed. What they do need is for someone to hear them, without reservation or judgment, and for someone to relate to the loss they have experienced. Grievers also need someone who can show them how to take small and correct steps that lead to completing unfinished emotional business. This business could be dealing with discoveries of the things they wish they had done better, different or more. It can also deal with unrealized hopes, dreams and expectations about the future.... to name a few. ___________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________
Failing to complete recovery from grief can have lifelong negative effects on your physical, emotional and spiritual well-being. In addition, unresolved grief can impact the way we interact with people, sabotage ourselves and relationships, and hold us back from moving forward in life. Through the Grief Recovery Method® Outreach Program: The Action Program for Moving Beyond Loss, clients will learn to rediscover their ability to transform the quality of their lives by completing a step-by-step program for moving beyond loss. The goal of the program is to get clients to move beyond the pain caused by loss. During the program, clients will look at old beliefs about dealing with loss, look at how those losses affected their life and take new action steps which lead to completion of the pain attached to those losses.
What is Grief?
Simply defined, grief is the normal and natural reaction to significant emotional loss of any kind. While we never compare losses, any list would include death and divorce as obvious painful losses. Our list also includes many others; retirement, moving, pet loss, financial and health issues, among them. The range of emotions associated with grief is as varied as there are people and personalities. There is no list of feelings that would adequately describe one person’s emotions, much less an entire society. Grief is individual and unique. As every relationship is unique, so are the feelings and thoughts each person will have about the relationship that has been altered by death, divorce, or for other reasons. ______________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________
Types of Losses?
There are 43 losses which can produce the range of emotions that we call grief. The long list includes:
~ Divorce or the End of a Relationship
~ Loss of Health
~ Major Financial Changes
~ Moving, and many others
Grief is normal and natural but many of the ideas we have been taught about dealing with grief are not helpful. What are the myths about grief?
~ Time Heals All Wounds
~ Grieve Alone • Be Strong
~ Don’t Feel Bad
~ Replace the Loss
~ Keep Busy
Just looking at the myth that “time heals” creates the idea that a person just has to wait and they will feel better. We have known people who had waited 10, 20, 30, and 40 years, and still didn’t feel better. And, we know that they would tell you that not only had time not healed them, but that it had compounded the pain. The other five myths carry equally unhelpful messages. ___________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________
What’s the Problem?
While grief is normal and natural, most of the information passed on within our society about dealing with grief is not normal, natural, or helpful. Grief is the emotional response to loss, but most of the information we have learned about dealing with loss is intellectual. The majority of incorrect ideas about dealing with loss can be summed up in six myths which are so common that nearly everyone recognizes them. Most people have never questioned whether or not they are valid.
What is the Solution?
Recovery from loss is accomplished by discovering and completing all of the undelivered communications that accrue in relationships. We are all advised to “Let Go,” and “Move On,” after losses of all kinds. Most of us would do that if we knew how. Completion of pain caused by loss is what allows us to let go and move on. It is almost impossible to move on without first taking a series of actions that lead to completion. Before taking the actions to complete, it is important to look at and often dismiss some of the ideas or myths that we have tried to use with loss, but are not working. ___________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________
What are the Safe and Correct Actions?
The Grief Recovery Method® Outreach Program provides the correct action choices that help people move beyond the pain caused by loss. It is a seven-week individual program or a twelve-week program which creates a safe environment in which to look at old beliefs about dealing with loss; to look at what losses have affected your life; and to take new actions which lead to completion of the pain attached to one of those losses. ___________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________
Is Grief Recovery the same thing as Therapy?
Please recognize that Grief Recovery is not therapy. Grief is the normal and natural reaction to loss; grief is not, of itself, a pathological condition or a personality disorder. The Grief Recovery Method is primarily an educational experience because most of us were never taught effective tools for dealing with grief. Many participants find that their subsequent therapy is enhanced by their experience in the workshop. In fact, many therapists refer clients to the program.
Michael Misenheimer was trained and certified by the Grief Recovery Institute. As a graduate, I have access to the founders ensuring your success in this program.
Moving Beyond Loss If you have experienced one or more losses, and you wish to move beyond the pain, this program offers you the probability of a richer and more rewarding life. Please contact me today to find out how grief recovery can assist you. You may reach me at (615) 469-0330.